Listening to Your Inner Voice with Lindsay Jani

Y'all, this is one of my most favorite episodes. You HAVE to listen! Lindsay is amazing. She teaches us how to get quiet and really listen to our inner voice, to our soul. We were rapt listening to her. She takes us from the pure innocence of our childhood, through the formation of belief systems to arrive at current state, which may or may not be in our core truth. Lindsay gives people tools to come back to yourself. What is this true self? It's your intuition.

In this episode, you'll hear:
 
1. The importance of listening to one's intuition and distinguishing it from external influences for better decision-making and embracing personal truths.

2. The significance of accessing a higher energetic frequency and the fluidity between generations in awakening to new beliefs and truths.

3. The value of trusting one's inner knowing, releasing mental barriers, and listening to one's inner voice for healing, navigating challenges with certainty, and creating a foundation for joy and happiness.


PLEASE listen to this episode, It's hard to put into words how valuable this is.
 
00:00 Soul is pure, intuition connects to innocence.
03:47 Trusting intuition leads to ease and alignment.
07:47 Subconscious mind automates most of your life.
10:30 Amazed by Cam's intuition, despite personal doubt.
01:11 Health and wellness struggles for midlife women.
17:38 Challenging beliefs, age doesn't define experiences.
21:44 The importance of therapy and intuition augmentation.
25:48 Therapy and energy healing after traumatic experience.
28:16 Childhood experiences impact and shape our adulthood.
31:22 Embracing chaos, finding peace, and accepting challenges.
33:13 Acceptance of individuality and intuition are key.
36:57 Embody and integrate changes to live fully.
39:39 Questioning labels and embracing personal evolution journey.
44:40 Explore inner voice, unleash creativity, listen podcast.
48:28 Making the first mile running seem effortless.
51:10 Grateful for journey, know more than think.
52:01 Contact us through show description next week.

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Transcript

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Knock, knock. Who's there? Everyone. Everyone's opinions, everyone's thoughts, just everyone is here. Hi. I'm Cam, Holistic health coach, mom to 2 humans and 4 pets. Hi I'm Amelia, laboratory scientist by day and food scientist by night. Welcome to our show. Join us as we share our holistic approach to life after 50. You can expect real life stories with a dash of humor and a ton of truth. If it happens in midlife, we're going to talk about it. So hit that subscribe button and follow along. We're the Midlife Mommas. Hi. Welcome back to the podcast. We are so excited to have a very special guest today. She happens to be one of my coaches and one of my dear friends in my life. We are inviting Lindsay Janney on onto the podcast this morning. What's wrong with my voice? Lindsay helps people who second guess themselves listen to their inner voice, uncovering their intuition, giving them the only tool they ever need is inspired action toward the what they really want. Basically, she tells you to come back to yourself. Welcome, Lindsay, to the show. Oh, thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be speaking with you guys today. So Yeah. We are gonna talk about intuition. And so, Lindsay, just tell us a little bit about yourself. Oh, where to start? Okay. I am psychic. I guess you could call that, it's probably the best way to understand or the gateway into understanding who I am. I have not always known my gifts. I have not always lived by my gifts. But, the second that I realized that I knew far more than I thought that I did, was when everything changed. And being able to heal my own body, being able to heal my own mind, being able to source what I needed to from within to make sure that I was always my best authority. My biggest cheerleader was the thing that changed everything. So I'm not really quite sure how to label who I am or how I am or what I am, but all I know is that, I'm able to do quite a lot and help a lot of people find their inner voice and their inner knowing within, and that's what I do. Very, very cool. So as someone new, like, you all work together, and so I know Cam understands, what you do and what intuition is. For but for our listeners for whom this sounds a little woo woo effect, if I'm at liberty to say that, can you explain to us what what intuition is as far as, like, how you view it and how you use it to help other people. Sure. Well, everybody is born with a knowing and with a soul. And that soul comes in to your body when you are born this pure and blissful state. I don't think that there's one well, there maybe there's a few people who don't like babies, but but when you look at a baby, you see how innocent they are. That is who our soul is, innocent, beautiful, and everything else. And your intuition is just coming back to who you are, that soul of when you were born. Granted in this lifetime, you know, we have to grow up and we have to learn things and we have to learn how to move throughout the world. Right? And we have a lot of teachers, a lot of people that we hold as our leaders and authorities to show us what how to navigate the world. Right? Because it's a tricky place sometimes. There's a lot of uncertainty and, you know, that's just what we learn. There's nothing wrong with that. But when we start second guessing ourselves, I can probably talk about intuition about it's when you're not second guessing yourself, where you find your answer going inside of your heart, going inside of your soul and your knowing. And I know that a lot of people will sit there and feel like, oh, gosh. I have to do this, or I've got to do this, or this is, like, this is something that needs to be done, but it doesn't feel good or it doesn't feel fully aligned or it feels like they're pushing a boulder up a mountain and they don't know why because it's the way that they've been taught. That's going against your intuition. But when you are working with your intuition, it very much is an easy process. It is something that feels good, and it is just getting quiet. And listening to that inner voice within, that's always been not like, sometimes it nags at you being like, hey. Listen to me. And it's just like, no. I'm not gonna listen to you. I've gotta go listen to everybody else. Right? They've got the answers. No. You've got the answers within. Granted, there are skills you can learn outside of yourself. Absolutely. I don't expect anybody to know, you know, how to how to do certain things. Those are skills that are very applicable to moving through life. But what good are the tools that you have if you aren't actually using the person or the machine or like fine tuning the machine that gets to use them. And so and to use them in a way that works for them and also works for others. So when I talk about intuition, it's just simply listening to your inner voice and knowing that you have the answers within even though you might not feel like you do. It's because we're not getting quiet enough. We're not we've not we've been told not to source from within. We've been taught to source from outside of ourselves. And so that's really where that kind of pull comes from and that dissonance versus the resonance that you feel inside when you've done something that you know that, you know, if you ever hear yourself saying something like, I should have done that. I knew better. Right? That was your inner voice at one point. Or if you ever have that point where you're like, I knew it. That's your that's your inner voice. That's your intuition. Right? You're like, I was right. I teach people how to go with that. For me, it always showed up as, like, a gut feeling. Literally, I would get a stomachache when I wasn't paying attention to myself. And so I know there's lots of different ways of knowing. Can you talk a little bit about that? About knowing? Yeah. Oh, boy. Like, how to access it or how to what? There's there's there's so many facets. Let's talk about if you're just like, okay. Everyone's born with intuition. Everyone's born with the soul. How do you, like, start to see that in yourself? I guess that's like, for me, it was always the gut feeling, and then, like, oh, the gut feeling. That's really my intuition speaking to me. I got you. There are so many things. Microtraumas, large traumas, medium sized traumas, people just telling you you're not good enough or feeling good enough. All of those things kind of dampen the spirit. And I think that anybody who's ever experienced that or then started telling themselves, I can't do that. I'm not ready. Those are the things that need to be, readjusted and released in order to really access the inner knowing. Because if you have this voice that's playing in your head that is not an intuitive voice, it's the ego. It's something what you would call your tonal. That is something that is screaming, trying to make you comfortable, trying to keep you where you are subconsciously because the subconscious mind likes to automate things. It likes to automate your life because it has so many things that it has running on in the background. Some people say that 95% of your life is run on automation. I have also heard and I've also studied that 99.95% of your world is run on automation. So 5%, 0.05%, Who knows what that actually is? All I know is is that it automates quite a lot. And if you have your part of your mind controlling your emotions, controlling your spirit, because it needs to stay safe and comfortable in order for it to pump you the blood through your body, in order for it to heal anything that's going on. Right? Like, there's a lot of stuff that your mind isn't is there for. And so when you start to hold on to these old ways of being, it just defaults back to the old way. That's all. And the old way is not always what is best for us. And so what's necessary to start listening to your intuition is even sometimes just to be aware that's not my inner voice that's speaking. My soul's inner voice, That is the voice of other people. That is the voice of things that I've learned or things that I've picked up from my environment. Not to blame anyone or anything. It's just the way that our minds have worked. That's okay. It's a survival mechanism. And if that's if that's the case, that's okay. But once you know that that is not the voice to be living by, you can't unknow that anymore. And so you must start going within. Then you start to play with like, oh my gosh. Is that my intuition or is that my ego? Am I overthinking things or is this gonna be really easy? Right? And I so the best way to start getting into your intuition is to really start to understand where am I holding myself back? Where is my mind doing its job? And as it's as it's intended to do, and how can I help reshape it? And when you start to reshape it, it you can't unsee, you can't unknow what you then know inside, and then everything changes from there. It's like your intuition gets turned on just like that. It's it's incredible. Really is. I'm I'm amazed. Cam, I know that we've talked about this before and shared with our our listeners about your gut feelings, and I don't feel that. Like, before we started the record, we we shared a little bit because this is my first time meeting Lindsey, and, I I don't feel like I'm intuitive at all. And I would never known that before I met Cam, and I found out how amazing she is with her intuition. I don't you know, I have times, Lindsay, where I think they're micro decisions. We're not talking about life changing decisions. We're talking about little things that I'm like, I worry about, and once the decision is made, I either feel good about it or I don't. So as a person who is, we talked about this, and I've told our listeners a 1000000000 times, I'm a number 3 on the Enneagram. I'm a performer. So everything for me tends to be more outwardly focused anyway because I feel like that's how I'm wired. So is it harder for people like me than people like Cam who feel less connected to themselves or are realizing now, maybe in midlife, that we need to get more centered there? Is it harder, or or is the past different, I guess? I think it's only as hard as you let it Right? Very wise. I I I think that, you know, every thought we have becomes a choice. And once we're conscious of what that thought is and what it means, we then have one of 2 paths that we can take. The one that we know feels good and the one that we know that feels a little bit more like restrictive. And when you start to move towards the more restrictive state, you're just going on that path, but that's not to say that you can't make another choice to put yourself back on. It's the peep it's when you tell yourself I'm not intuitive or I don't believe that I'm intuitive, where you're going to find evidence to support that. Right? True. I mean, I could be like, oh, well, I'm not intuitive. And, like, you know, like, my my daughter who's home for spring break right now, You know, there's a whole bunch of stuff that happened this morning. Like, wow. I'm not intuitive. Like, what just happened? Right? You know, but at the same time, I'm highly intuitive. I know exactly what's going on with people all of the time, and I know exactly what's holding them back in their from their past. I don't know how I know it. I just know it. I know what's going on in people's bodies because I feel it when I work to I'm also I work with energy and I heal people. So are you a Reiki master by any chance? I go beyond Reiki. Okay. Okay. Okay. I am I go beyond Reiki. Reiki is a wonderful thing. I started with Reiki, and then I started to work with a shaman, old school, can't find them anywhere. Right? You can't find them online, who worked to start healing me. I had PTSD. And talk about anxiety and holding yourself back because you were so afraid. Right? Like, I walked around the world afraid of everything. And after working with him for a while, I was asked to work with him, to learn from him. And so as I've been learning from him, it's been, the ways that I know that I heal are go far beyond anything else. People feel it immediately while I'm working on them, and it's a really beautiful gift to be able to have. And similar to Reiki, much deeper than Reiki. Amazing. Kind of the tip of the iceberg if that if that helps. Then there's the other types of feeling. It's like, you know, when you look at an iceberg, brachy's at the tip. Mhmm. Everything else is down below. But the thing is is that we're all energy. Our intuition is energy. And when we start to access things from a higher state of knowing, even just that a little bit more belief in yourself or a little bit more joy or a little bit more love in your life, you start to raise your energetic frequency to be able to receive a little bit more because our souls are so like, if you think about it, are just so light and beautiful and of love like a baby. Man, I have so many questions. I don't even know where to start. Just But one of the one of the things that comes to mind, Lindsay, as I know some of our listenership and I know our age group of midlife women, we Cam and I talk a lot about, what health and wellness looks like at this stage. And the unique thing about our generation of people is, we were kind of and, Cam, jump in if you disagree. But a lot of what we find what we view as a generation as health or wellness is an aesthetic, which is inherently fake. So I'm very curious specifically for midlife women, and maybe this is strictly case by case basis, and I'm fine if you tell me that, but I feel like generationally, we are at a little bit of a deficit of finding our intuition because of this belief system that we were taught in the late seventies and eighties about the importance of the aesthetic. So if you could just speak on that, and again, if you're like, it's just a case by case basis, I'm completely fine with that answer. Right. I I'm on the cusp. I'm I'm like, I was born in the eighties, and so I'm, like, right at that middle point of, like, my body's changing. Things are changing. And I think that, you know, every generation wakes up a little bit more. And I think what's really special about every generation that we have, one can teach the other. And I think that there's this openness in this fluidity between a younger generation and an older generation at this point. What I think people are very awake to what once worked no longer works, and we must start looking elsewhere for our information. And we can listen, but we also need to be able to discern because there's so much information out there. There's so much we're being bombarded by messages and what I like to call noise every single day. This is right. No. This is right. Oh, they're total ends of the spectrum. Like, both can be right. Both can be wrong. Both can be partially true. So where is this truth? Who you only know what's right for you. If you're not feeling good, you know you're not feeling good. And if somebody's telling you, you know, you this is then, no, no, no, This is what it is. And you're like, nope. Actually, we've been going down this route for a really long time. Mhmm. I still don't feel good. I can't think clearly. I have inflammation. My joints hurt. My body hurts. My mind hurts. I'm sad. I'm upset. That's not you know, I think I think we can all relate to not feeling good at some point or another and having somebody tell us that that is not what's true, but you're like, no. It is true. And so whether or not you are a 150 years old actually, I did see a woman who's a 141 Woah. Online the other day, and she I'm like, what? And whether or not I don't know if it's true, but I'm like, I want to believe that's true. So in my mind, I am. But whether or not you are a 150 or 5. You know? We can all learn from something, and I think that all of us get to wake up at different times. And it's when we are coming into the struggle of, I have felt this way so long. I don't wanna feel like this anymore, is when you start to open up a little bit more. Right? And this whole and being in the wellness industry, only people who are not feeling good will wind up finding it. Right? And that's okay. That's okay because that is their journey. That is their path. You can't wake up somebody who doesn't wanna wake up yet, and that's okay. I love this because that is the crux of what I teach is your biofeedback. Like, if the these are the guidelines. This is what we know science wise, but you are your own best expert. And I teaching women how to listen to this house and trust their decisions. I had a call before this podcast, and the conversation was she's craving protein. And I'm like, trust it. Your your body, this is what you need. You know. You're just follow it. You're doing the right thing. So I I love that you spoke that. The other thing that was interesting, Lindsay, is, intuitively, I know what people need to do to improve their health and wellness. And I guess finding my own voice, that's why I've worked with you, to tell to be out there in the world, to have the courage to say what I know. I don't know. But you do know. I do know. And I you're like, I don't know. And I just just have to say it. Just need to say it. Mhmm. Yeah. But, also, the women have to trust themselves to know what's best for them. Yeah. Mhmm. And we've been, you know, like, I think that there's a time and place for everybody. Mhmm. Right? Like, your doctors are doctors. Like, let them be doctors. Your, like, mental health professionals are mental health professionals. Let them be mental health professionals. Let them do what they're supposed to do. But then there's this time where it's just like, where can I take back my own agency and my own authority and also have a say in what happens to me? And I know that for me, I always grew up having to listen to everybody else. That's the way I grew up. I grew up, you know, my my parents are, like, lovely. And but, you know, they grew up, like, my my my grandfather was was strict, and so my dad was a little bit more strict. We had rules. And, you know, it's one of those things where, you know, we you listened to authority. And I've always been kind of the black sheep of my family in that way where I'm like, no. I'm not gonna do that. And I'm like always the one that talked back and, you know, got in trouble quite a lot, grounded all the time. Most of my summers were spent grounded or working. But it's one of those things where doesn't it feel so good when you start understanding what you need and actually fulfilling on that yourself. And that's essentially what I teach people how to get back to. It's the unlearning of everything, but still also honoring and respecting where you come from, who you are, the people who have been in your like, I'm not here to tell you to hate on your family. Love your family. You've got to be good with your foundation. In order to heal. You don't hate on your foundation. Whatever got you here was meant to happen. That is part of your karmic life journey. That is like so profound. I'm having trouble processing it, but I do wanna go back to what you said a minute ago because we did touch on this before we hit record about the augmentation of what you teach or facilitate with, we concentrated on mental health professionals, but certainly a medical professional or or coach as well. But, you know, a lot of people, not just midlife women, but my friend's kids, Everybody I know is either in therapy, has been to therapy, or is in a current living situation with a child, a spouse, a parent, or whatever who's in therapy. So I'm all about it. Like, the all I'm telling you. So I love it. So I can I want you to speak just for a second because we did cover this a little bit as we were just chatting about how, discovering or or tapping into your intuition can actually augment the therapy that you are engaged in or maybe I don't know? Maybe it can you can point to, like, maybe you need some mental health counseling. I mean, I do know people our age, who are still find that to be a stigma associated with therapy, which is so unfortunate. It makes me so sad. But if you'll just comment on that, Lindsey. Yeah. So, you know, therapy is a really it's a beautiful resource. It's a tool to help you start to understand, and I think that it is a I mean, for people who who need it, who need to process things, and sometimes people feel like they need to voice something that they haven't been able to express. Having somebody be able to help somebody find that and pull that out and so they feel heard and understood and that space held is very important. Therapy has its place, but when people start relying on therapy, they're being like, oh, I have to go to my therapist or, like, I have to go here. I have to go here. That is a really disempowering thing. I would rather somebody go through my program or that I work with also work with a therapist as well because there might be more processing that needs to be done once they find something inside. Right? And that's okay. You know? But when when I work with people, it's about helping people uncover the layers that have been just holding them back. And it's also I'm able to see a person's soul, if that makes any sense. That's crazy, but amazing. I can sense it. I can feel it, and I know it. And I know what's been pulling them away from that part of them. And the work that I do doesn't go into healing past traumas, but it meets you where you are so you don't have to go into them. I'm not a therapist. Right? There's a there's therapy, and then there's inner, like, intuitive healing. I'm not even quite sure what to call it. But you don't have to always go into your past and relive something in order to process it. That is so profound. Like, I I hope people really pay attention to that. But the other thing, like, another follow-up would be, in my understanding that the path to healing can either be working on recognizing your intuition and then therapy or therapy and then this or co learning? Like, is there is there a formula, or is it just whatever works for each person? It's whatever works for each person. You know, there are people who are deep in the depths of grief. Yeah. And, you know, there are different therapists for different things or, you know, deep in the depths of, like, depression or Yeah. Really hard life traumas. That is a whole entangled web. Yeah. I can speak from experience. You know? And it's one of those things where, you know, I'll I'll just I I'm not I'm not in it anymore, so I can speak from it. I got shot at almost 20 years ago, and that was my gateway into therapy. That was my gateway into energy healing because I just wasn't feeling good. And when you start looking at these things, like, all of the experiences that pull up are I was told that I wouldn't have trauma in that way if there wasn't something else from my past that it triggered. And I was like, oh my god. And sometimes it's like not feeling good enough or just like maybe a kid, like, making fun of you or, like, stealing your bike. You know, like, little things that you don't think are impacting you that have such a large impact on you as an adult. Right? Like, not being invited to the lunch table. Right? Or, like, maybe your friends stop talking to you and they turn your back and, like, they walk out on you. And you're like, where am I not good enough? As an adult, you would tell a child, no. That's that's all them. That's their they don't understand you. But at the same time, you still carry that in your heart, and then something so traumatic wakes up these little tiny connections in your mind and it makes them alive because it connect it can connect to one thing to one singular experience, and that becomes the source of what's scary. And it can be micro, it could be major, it can be anything. But at the end of the day, all of these things are like this entangled web that just holds you back from the beauty that you are. And if we were able to just express ourselves and to live in our knowing and just speak up and say like, no, actually, I have a question or I'm not sure that's a 100% right. Can we go a little bit deeper? Or, you know, just like saying these things. There's so much power in being able to even say, hey. I have a question, or, hey. Like, listen to me. I think I also might be able to add to this conversation. Right? And it's never about, like, I'm going to point to somebody and say, you're wrong. You're wrong. You're wrong because they are right as well. There are different ways of being right. There are different ways of not being right. You know, Lindsay, I love that you brought up these childhood things because I think a lot of us absorb those things, and we don't even know, that they were they were they have affected us in such a way. And a beautiful and yet tragic thing to me is the compilation of these experiences. You know, there are they are wounds that may have scar tissue on top of them that actually has strengthened us in places. But underneath, there may still be a wound that we are that, to your point, are triggered. You know, and I find that on a daily basis. You know? Only through just hearing you talk about, you know, childhood things that may actually be reopened and rewounding when things happen to me as an adult, and I don't make that connection. Like, I have no idea why these new situations in my adult life and a lot of it's around work, honestly, why they affect me and why I have so much trouble processing some things. Yeah. But I wonder if it's exactly what you're saying. It's this is just eye opening for me. So Yeah. You know, it's just like these little instances that, like, pull you away from, like, that beautiful like, if you were to go back and look at yourself as, like, a kid being, like, I can be like, I can fly or I'm gonna be a doctor. I'm gonna be I'm gonna be an astronaut. I'm gonna whatever. We've been pulled so far away from that, like, ability to explore and thinking that it's okay to just let ourselves be. And as a kid, we make mistakes all the time. Heck, we, like, break our bones. Right. Right. And the funny thing though is is I feel like depending on what your childhood was like, like, when you make those mistakes, it's the re it's it's just like when my children were little, if they would get hurt instead of, like, having a look of panic that they were seriously injured, my husband would rush over with a big smile and be, it's okay. It's okay. And he'd help them back on their feet. So it's not necessarily the failure or mistake we experience as a child. It's the reaction to the adults around us that causes that, in my opinion or or in my experience, I should say. So It's their perspective. Right? Right. It's their it's their it's their learned perspective. Right. And I'm wondering if some of that is part of that now as some of the reason that I look for that external validation most of the time. It's like I look for that from my parents or from the adults around me. And when I got it, I learned to hang a lot of value on that, which now I have to unwind. It's okay. A lot of our conditioning happens between the ages of 27. So so those are really formative years. And if there's, like that doesn't mean that, like, you're not going to hold on to stuff from, like, when you're 15 or 20 something or whatever, but 2 to 7 is really where those little bits and pieces get, like, get get ingrained, and then that's kind of where everything spider webs off into. It's just like, oh, this is my now my perception of the world. Like, if you felt safe between the ages of when you were born to about 7, you will probably be like, oh, well, the world feels safe. Right. Right. Into a space that felt chaotic or maybe dangerous, you'll feel like the world that might be against me. And that is that that's just it's okay. And if you're somewhere in between, you're somewhere in between. Like, it's okay. It's okay. And I would just want everyone to know that, like, their past experiences, once you realize that, like, it's okay and that you don't have to keep going back and, like, trudging up the stuff and, like, finding stuff, there's a way to I feel like when you start listening to your inner voice, that is a significant amount of healing that you do on yourself. Granted, like, the journey, that that doesn't mean that challenges aren't going to happen. It doesn't mean that, like, hardships aren't going to come your way. They will. But what it does is help you navigate with a sense of certainty, with a sense of solidity in your knowing and being like, that's not right. That's not right. And you just don't go that way. You can let others go on that path. That's their that's up to them. That's their learning. But if once you know something, you've gotta go with it. Otherwise, that you'll be shown everything against it every single time, and it gets worse. It gets more it gets more exaggerated, and it becomes what people like to call a dark night of the soul, an ego death. Those things, they happen when you start to let yourself to, trust yourself a little more and more and more. And people are like, oh, I don't want those experiences, but those experiences are what create such this beautiful foundation of creating more joy and happiness, ease in this, like, peace inside of yourself where you will not find that anywhere unless you find it within. So, Lindsay, is part of the journey and part of the way you help people, helping them understand contrary to kinda how we're taught that everyone is different? And I think that's part of what I'm getting from you is the acceptance of self and that my journey is gonna be different from yours or Cam's or my best friend's. Because societally, we're kind of conditioned to be there is a right and there is a wrong. At least that's my opinion. And so, kind of getting out of that, I love black and white. I love to know what's truth, what is not. And it sounds like there's a lot of like your your truth, your intuition may be somewhere in the middle. Your truth might be in the middle. It might be, like, in left field. Like, you're gonna be like, what what what you thought was once true and what you thought was once false might not even be within the realm of your first girl. You are blowing my mind. Like, big I mean, it is it is so incredible what happens when you just start listening. It gets my mind used to run a mile a minute. And even my shaman at one point, I when I was hanging out with them, I was with them for about a week, and he was just like, yeah. He's like, it's very loud in there. I'm like, what am I talking about? It's so quiet. And he goes, what did you have? Like, a whole I'm like, it's so much better than it used to be. He's like, what did you have? A whole football stadium in there? That's what I'm That's funny. TV. Oh, preach, girl. I hear you. And, you know, in every like, it's just the healing. And for me, healing is just getting back to the self, quieting the noise, and letting you live a peaceful existence and one that positively impacts other people. And, you know, if you if there's one thing that I think anybody ever does is they only do things that they want to do because they wanna be happy. I mean, even people who are, like, here, like, robbing stores and banks and whatever, they think that that instant gratification is okay because it makes them happy for a moment. Right? They get that hit. Nobody's gonna do anything that doesn't think that they're not doing their best at that point in time. Amen. I love that. I mean, I'm a big Brene Brown fan, and we I listened to a couple of her episodes of podcasting that talks about people are doing the best they can. And I think we talked about this Yeah. Maybe before we started record. A lot of people, men, women, young, old, they they in what they really believe will help sometimes looks like the form of self medication, whether it's spending you know, retail therapy. We make a joke about retail therapy, but it's real. And maybe it's fun for a time, but it doesn't fill that void. Neither does alcohol, neither does sugar. Cam and I have tried the sugar out for sure. So there's so much stuff that you we all, like we're like, where can we get this happiness, this joy, this feeling? Or over exercising. Let's put that one in there too. We did that one too. Yeah. We did that. We're all doing something to feel good. Right? And we're trying our best. We're doing our best at most times. And once we know better, then we must do better. Right. Otherwise, that the best is no longer the best, and you're just sitting there in your stuff. It feels pretty gross. It does. That's a great word. It does feel really gross when you're sitting in your stuff. I do love that. Gotta change the diaper, Right? Change the diaper. That's fun. And it's just like, how long do you wanna let yourself be in that space? Right. That becomes the question at the end of the day. And I think that, you know, people are trying to put these, like, Band Aids on things and trying these, like, quick these, like, quick tips and tricks and hacks and things that they see on TikTok, and, yes, they might help as tools and little things here and there that can help. But But unless you actually embody and integrate the changes that you need to make, you can't live from that space. You're going to be living from the space outside. And so what I also help people do is come back to being able to embody and integrate very easily. Mhmm. And so when you get to the point of embodying, you know when you're not functioning from the place that you need to be functioning from. You know when it's not your intuition. And you're like, oh, god. I knew I shouldn't have done it. And you're like, okay. Done. And you know when to stop it and then move back onto the path of feeling good again. That is Yeah. That's all it is. And it's just an unlearning. And it's something that sounds so simple is one of the hardest things we will ever do in our lifetimes because it's so ingrained. But, you know, actually, going back to Brene Brown, she said something that I thought was so profound. We do a lot of things to fit in. Right? Mhmm. But when we're fitting in, we are doing things that are we are melding ourselves in a way so that we are pulling ourselves away from who we are. Right. But she talks about the need to belong. Belonging. Yes. This belonging. Belonging is the knowing of the self. When you belong in here and when you reach back in here, that then it doesn't matter where you go outside. You will always fit in somewhere. Right? Because you'll fit in probably in more places than not because you are just yourself. You actually create that space to hold other people. I don't know if she actually talked about that. But when you find your belonging, your inner knowing inside, you create this whole space. And I was actually talking to Cam about this the other day. I was just like, I'm redoing some things in my business, and I've taken a tiny pause. And I realized that not only was I creating the lunch table for people to sit at, I'm creating the whole damn cafeteria because I want people to just find themselves in the beauty that it is without them forcing anything or feeling like they need to fit some mold. And I teach a lot of people. And when you said Enneagrams, I think it's a really great place to start. Human design, great place to start. But at the end of the day, you start to see that those are simply just labels too. Sure. I'm telling you this is the way you are, and we're always looking for somebody. Tell us who we are Yes. What we need to do to move forward and granted they're helpful. But, I mean, my Enneagram has changed. My Myers Briggs has changed. And I'm like, oh, isn't that fascinating how it's changed as I've changed? And it's like, where am I fitting into the, you know, the the square peg into a round hole after a while after I grow and evolve? Because if we keep holding ourselves by these certain labels that other people tell us, then we'll never be able to fully explore who we've actually always been. And so I think for me, that's been one of my greatest learnings in, like, becoming, you know, this, like, person that I am. And I'm still unlearning so much. It's a it's a it's a forever journey. Right? But as I as I pick up steam and realize, I'm like, oh, nope. That's a label. I'm not that. That's why it was so hard for me to introduce myself from the very beginning. I'm like, oh, this is kind of what I do, but I also don't define myself by what I do anymore. And I also don't define myself by how other people define me because people sometimes think, like, psychic. Like, oh, that's weird. She's gotta wear black. I'm like, you know, all these, like, like, pinky nails and like, yeah. Do I work do I have crystals? I've got lots of them. But it's also one of those things where, you know, people are like, oh, do you read my mind? I'm like, I probably can, but I've got enough going on in here where I'm like, unless you're paying me, I'm not doing it. Right? And it's like, it's one of those things where it's just you know, we all have the ability to access these gifts and a lot of people don't realize that. Are you intuitive? Yes. You are because you have a soul. If you have a soul, you've got a gift. It's amazing. And there's an expression of you that needs to live. And every single thing that is keeping you from not feeling good in what you're doing is simply just pulling you away from the essence of who you are. That's it. Amelia, this conversation reminds me of when we did the episode on putting down our exercise identity. Like, we have all these labels. Like, you're a mom, you're a teacher, you're Iron Man, you're a CrossFitter, you're all the teacher, all the things, right? And putting down those labels is one of the many things I've learned from Lindsay to let those labels go. They don't define me as a human, as a soul. No. If anything, it's just a small part of what you do. And if you, like, look at all of the other things that maybe you're not living into because you've been living into those other identities and maybe identities of the past. You know, like, somebody told me, Lindsay, you're not a great communicator long time ago. I lived by that for a really long time. I am not. Right? The word I am is such a powerful tool because I am is you are simply because you are. Right? Like, I am I am because I am. If you've ever heard that phrase, let that be, not I am tired. That's an identity. I am sick. That's an identity. When you start living into I am my soul, I which is healthy, happy, love, light, so much more than I'm tired. I don't feel good today. I am. I am. I'm not good at that. Kinda doesn't feel good. I bet you you are good at things. Right? I used to say I'm not good at math. I'm, like, actually decent at it. You know? I'm like, oh, I I got second grade down. Yeah. I know what I need. Thank you. I can help my daughter a little bit. I'm so good. Like, I I can add things, you know, like, I don't need I'm not one of those people that needs, like, all these, like, scientific equations because it's just not what I need. Yeah. Right? Maybe what you define yourself as not I am, maybe, like, I'm not. Maybe that's just something that you don't need in order to fulfill your purpose, your dharma. Maybe that's just because your mind is being pointed towards what you do need to be focusing on. So In order to fulfill this, like, kind of, karmic, pact that you make with yourself before you even come here. Right? So cool. So, Lindsay, we've just unpacked so much in in this time, and I'm like, it'll take I will probably, in all honesty, listen to this episode many times and pick out, like, even more things to concentrate on and ponder over the time. So if people are listening and just completely, like, I'm interested, but I have no idea where to start, What is the next step for them? If people would like to learn more about how to just start listening to their inner voice or how to simply release the things that they keep on replaying in their minds that are holding them back, I would invite you to come DM me or or direct message me on Instagram. Listen to my podcast. It's called Unleash Your Creative Soul. And the whole purpose of that program is that we are all creators. We all get to create. We all get to make. That's why we're here. And we are all creative beings. Even if you think that I am not creative, we are all creative. We all are here. We are all made to create something. That is our purpose. That is our dharma. Outstanding. And so you said, what your podcast is. What about other, ways of connection? I think you have a website and an Instagram presence. Is that correct? Yes. It's lindsayjani.com. It's lindsayjani.com. And you can learn a little bit more there. I have a program called reclaim, which really helps with the foundation of who you are, making that really strong so you can start listening to your inner self, your inner voice, and release easily the things that have been holding you back without really getting into the gross stuff. The gross stuff. Yeah. And I am I'm on Instagram, lindsayjani.co. Okay. Every every everything that I have points to something. You'll always be able to find a link on one thing or another to the other piece. So Her her one of my first experiences with Lindsay was listening to her podcast, And I know we're trying to wrap up here, but there was this amazing story about you and you were running. And so you are a runner. I know that's a label. Yeah. Alright. And you were talking about the mental aspect of running and that you were able to cut time off of your normal route. Oh, it was my best. Yes. It was. And that was one of, like, oh, I and it was before I met you in person, I believe, or was right after I met you. I'm not sure. It was after. Yeah. It was after. Okay. So, yeah, would you just summarize that story just a little bit how it fits in, how intuition fits into your physical body? Yeah. So I was, so I've trained for 2 marathons. I have since then become a mom. My body's much different than it used to be. Not running marathons anymore, also not running more than 5 miles. But I do enjoy the act of running. And sometimes there will be periods of time where I don't run, and there will be periods of time where I'm running all the time. And it was during a period where I was getting back on track and my body just felt really heavy. Like, it didn't wanna move. Like, my legs felt like they were in cement. Like, it just was hard. And I kept on saying, like, in my mind, like, god, this doesn't feel good. This is so hard. Maybe I'll cut this short. And I'm sure we've all been there with many different places in our lives. Right? But then I and, Cam, you probably know the episode better than me because I I literally recorded it sweaty and gross. After I came in, I'm like, I've gotta record this now. It's I believe I said, how can I let this be easy? And I just tuned into my body. I readjusted my body in a way that felt better. And I don't know exactly what it was, but it was the, this won't be easy. I've got this and I can do this. I've done this before. I've run, like, you know, over 20 miles. Like, I can do this. Like, why is this first mile so effing hard? It's not hard. I was letting it be hard because I knew that I had the ability to run the endurance to run. Why was today any different? I'm like, oh, it's because I was holding my body really tight. I wasn't holding it in a way that what felt loose and in its knowing that it had the ability to flow and to move. And so when I made the decision to let it just be easy, how can I make this easier? I mean, I I don't even know how fast I ran that day, but at that point in time, it was my best time since having a baby. It was my best time running up. I have a lot of hills in my town. And either way, you get back to my house. I've gotta run up a hill. Isn't that a metaphor for life? Yeah. And so I like, even coming up the hill, it's the last stop. Either way I go around my house. It's like up at the top of you. I have to go down to go. Right? And so to come back up, sometimes my my feet are feeling light. I'm feeling easy. It's light and easy. It's light and easy, and I let that almost become this mantra. Mhmm. It's light and easy, and it becomes this hypnotic trance almost like hearing your feet hit the ground at the same rhythm. It's light and easy. It's light and easy. I've got this. It's light and easy. Best time. I love all stories. I love that. I was like, that's amazing that you can use your intuition and your knowing to make your body physically do something. You can just readjust it. I mean, like, like, it's that it's sourcing from that knowing inside being like, I've got this. And that knowing like, I'm good. I'm actually good. Whatever, like but I did not feel good beforehand. Like, let that be very clear. I felt like I was going to have to turn home. My joints were hurting. My muscles were hurting. Things weren't moving. It just didn't feel nice. But I was at that point where I'm like, well, I could either turn home or I could just go back, and it's probably gonna be the same either way. Yeah. So how am I gonna how am I choosing to move forward with this? Awesome. Light and easy. So Thanks for sharing that story. What's one of my favorite? Absolutely. And thanks for being on the show today. I really am super excited about what you've shared. Again, I'm going to listen to it over and over, and I know that we'll have listeners that are just, like, blown away in in process and reaching out and so forth. So, Cam, do you have any other questions for Lindsay and Yeah. Really thank you for for being here, and, I appreciate you very much. Is there anything you would like to add before we say goodbye? Just thank you. Oh. I'm really grateful. And, you know, it's I know that it's part of my journey to help other people find that part of themselves that they've just simply been pulled away from. And if there's one thing that I could leave anybody with is that you know far more than you give yourself credit for, and you can do far more than you even know. So just go with that. If you need that message at any point in time, you always know more than you think you do. Boom. That's it. I love it. Again, thank you, Lindsay. Thank you. Appreciate it. Thanks for listening today. You can find us on Instagram @midlife.mommas. For all of our other contact info, check out the show description below, and we will talk to you next week.